In a counselling situation a counsellor would deny responsibility for the clients feelings. I recently started wondering whether as a person with a public role I have a different responsibility? This perhaps also touches on the expectations of clergy. The Naked Pastor has recently resigned from ministry and has faced many assumptions about why he has done this. He has suggested that he left because the church where he ministered was being adversely affected by his association with it.
Perhaps the equivalent situation is for a counsellor to stop seeing someone because although they are not responsible for the others feelings they recognise that they are having an adverse impact on them. Perhaps if one has a prophetic ministry then one needs to exercise it where it does not harm others.
However, I can't accept that I always have to fit in with what is "acceptable" in my church. In the CofE it isn't possible to agree with everyone, but perhaps a priest who is a long way away from their congregation is not in a position to minister to them, particularly in a place where there are several other churches within easy commuting distance. And yet I want it not to be so - and think that I have ministered to those far away from me! Is the corollary of this then that it is possible to minister better without pinning your own colours to the mast? I don't like that answer either. I suspect that this is one that I am going to return to.
