Monday, 12 April 2010
Yesterday's reading included Doubting Thomas. So what are you like on trust? Simon P Walker has been publishing his new book online and in Chapter 4 writes about trust and how we learn to trust (or not) others and ourselves in our early life, and how this affects us as we get older. It also reminded me of this post I read a little while ago on how different attitudes to trust can affect us.
I know that I find it easier to trust myself than I do others. And that is now I am so much better at trusting others! In my previous job it took me a long time before I could escape from the trap of thinking that no one else could do it as well as I could (well, they couldn't could they ;)) so I had to do it myself. It took a long time to learn that lesson, and it was one that I thought that I had learnt. However, when push comes to shove I find that I do not trust others L What I had learnt to do was to let them do things that didn't matter. Building a trust in others that is not there is hard work, and the only way I know of doing it is by continuing to do a little more of it all the time. The problem is that I know I am going to get let down at some point. It isn't trusting because it always works, it is trusting knowing that sometimes it doesn't, but doing it anyway.